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    The Award for the Best Apology goes to…

    The Award for the Best Apology goes to…

    Try and think of the most ridiculous thing you’ve apologized for. Bonus points if it had anything to do with the size of your body and how inconvenient you thought it was for the other person. We hear and give so many apologies in different forms. “I’m sorry you have to find me a bigger size (even though as a retail assistant, it’s literally your job)”, “I’m sorry but I need a bigger life jacket (even though the correct fit could save my life)”, sorry for taking up space, sorry this elevator now doesn’t have the capacity to fit another person, sorry this tiny tuk tuk can now only take two people, and on and on it goes. Do we ever stop to think how NOT sorry we should be?

    Apologizing for your body, your strengths, your knowledge or your talent, is saying that your own existence is a mistake. You won’t hear an actress saying, “I’m so sorry I landed this role through my own talent”, you don’t hear a marathon-winning athlete saying, “Oh gosh, I’m sorry, I wish I didn’t win today”. So WHY are you apologizing for living life the way you want to live it?

    What you choose to eat, the fitness goals you aspire towards, the career you excel in, are all a part of what makes you unique. In a world full of negativity, it’s easy to second guess yourself. Give yourself a break, teach yourself resilience, have a nap. Then wake up and grab life by the balls. Time doesn’t stop for anyone; do you want to spend your life apologizing to total strangers for being yourself? Self-confidence will give you the biggest glow-up known to humankind. Raise your head up and say it together now, #IoweNOapology!

    Health and Self Love at every size – In conversation with Nutritionist, Dr. Natalie Cooke

    Health and Self Love at every size – In conversation with Nutritionist, Dr. Natalie Cooke

    Dr. Natalie Cooke is a Medical Doctor who worked at the National Cancer Hospital and later a leading private hospital where she set up the specialties of Plastic Surgery and Oncology. She meets patients and clients who are always looking to change their natural self from skin whitening to nose jobs. Later to this, she joined Vingyana as the Head of Clinical Operations and Practice Manager, where she was introduced to Integrative Medicine and Healing. This is where she decided to continue in Natural Medicine. Now Dr. Natalie uses Food as a Medicine in different forms of juices of fruits and vegetables she uses protocols for treating chronic diseases. Her mission is to empower women to embrace themselves and be mindful of Health at any size.

    1. Natalie, if you can capture your background and the work you currently do briefly?

    I practice a way of life. Integrative Medicine I like to call it. It’s a more Holistic approach to looking at the Human Body and Disease. I treat all Chronic Diseases with Nutrition, Juicing and Detoxification of the Body. You fall sick for three reasons either you are Nutritionally Deficient, you have a toxic overload or it’s your mind. Either way the food you put into your body plays a huge role. My main area is The Mind. You get what you believe in. I teach people to take responsibility for their Life and Health and do what’s right. You are always your best Doctor.

     

    1. You meet patients on a day today basis who ask you to help change them in physical appearance. How many actually focus on beauty within and what advice do you have for them?

     

    It’s a handful that look at their body and health and think of beauty. So many girls bring a magazine and ask if it’s possible for them to look that way. There are many patients that had to go through vigorous detoxification programs due to all the tablets and supplements ingested for fairness, slimming etc. It’s sad to see all these beautiful women walking through my doors believing that they need to do a lot more to be beautiful.

     

    1. The term Health inclusive of holistic wellness. What are your thoughts on ‘Health at any size’ and how can one make such change.

     

    We all have a body type. Either we are the Carb, Protein or Starch type. It’s important to know what you are and then just take precautions. Starch is just something we need for energy. So if you do a desk job from 8 to 5 that means you can go with a minimum amount of starch a day. As long as you eat Healthy and you are happily doing whatever you are doing that is all that is important.

    We need to be physically, emotionally and mentally fit. Physical fitness is all people seem to be believing in and looking for. Its actually quite simple. You eat right and you walk alittle that helps in your physical fitness. It’s the mental and emotional side that actually needs work. We need to be more mindful and live in the Present, be grateful and not take things to heart. That alone is a lot of work.

     

    1. It’s often misconceptualised that if you are not in the socially accepted size range, you are unhealthy. What is your opinion on that?

     

    People seem to think that 120/80 is the correct blood pressure, 100 is the normal range for sugar and below 200 is the normal rate for cholesterol. Everyone seems to forget that no two humans are the same. Not even twins have the same fingerprint. If we are so different how can we categorize people and say, what’s right for one should be right for all?

    There is a saying that, ‘you can’t make everyone around happy unless you are  selling Ice Cream’. Why do we even bother with what people have to say?

    There is no correct size.

    If a girl has a hormonal imbalance or an issue with her thyroid gland then there will be a fluctuation in weight. Sometimes people take quite a bit of steroids that cause weight gain that is next to impossible to lose. Those are cases for me to fix. But even in those situations you should love yourself. It is the energy we carry within that we portray out. Weight shouldn’t be a measurement on how valuable human life and self-love is. Confidence in ourselves should never change with a change in a weighing scale or color scheme.

    It’s actually quite petty.

     

    1. Eating disorders and its link to mental health has a huge correlation. How can one overcome such scenarios?

      Nutrition is everything in life. It’s very important that we eat the right food and get a balanced diet. This is not possible as most people are on various diets that don’t suite their body.

    People either don’t eat at all, they eat very less or they eat the wrong food. Eating disorders used to be Anorexia, Bulimia and so on. But now I also need to add Binge eating, the hoax of having to eat 5-6 meals per day, overdoing meat and fat, excessive amounts of supplements, powdered versions of liquid meals, overcooked meals, refrigerated food etc.

    Most of the items listed above are actually dead food. It doesn’t nourish your body. When you don’t receive the right nourishment your organs, blood and tissues are deoxygenated one by one. Our blood carries no value to our body. This leads to illnesses. When there is less oxygen in the blood it also passes to our brain. When we are malnourished and toxic, we mentally carry low energy as well.

    The answer to all this is, you eat when you are hungry because that’s your body clock. Drink your water, get 15 minutes of sunlight a day, walk 30 minutes, have a well-balanced social life, sleep 8 hours every night and keep smiling.

     

    1. What support can you offer to anyone struggling with body image, proper nutrition and building confidence? How can they stay in touch?

    First of all, please don’t correlate your body image to your confidence. You don’t have to lose or gain weight to be beautiful. It comes from within. Love yourself no matter what. Be proud of who you are and what you have achieved so far. Love the journey and don’t always look to a destination. Live in the moment and be grateful that you are alive and kicking. There are many who would love to live the life you are living right now.

     

    You can contact me on my Facebook or Instagram pages, Dr Natalie Cooke.

    The Devil wears… whatever the hell she wants

    The Devil wears… whatever the hell she wants

     

     

    Ah, the witty tones of workplace bullying. At a place where everyone has an opinion about everything, it would be tough to get through your career without being subjected to some sort of judgement. If you get called in for an interview, however much confidence you have in your experience and capabilities, you would still want to dress to impress, because first impressions matter. If you look younger than you are, people automatically tend to think you’re incapable or that you lack leadership and the ability to command a room. If you’re closer to 6ft and wear heels to boot, you’re more of an intimidating boss lady who’s bound to be difficult to handle.

    Some workplaces also try to control your sense of style. While you probably shouldn’t walk into your corporate office like you work at Hooters, being in charge of your own dress code shouldn’t be too much to ask. Oh, for the day when employees are judged on their capabilities and not on what they eat, how much they eat, how they dress or how much they weigh…

    If you’re dressed appropriately for your workplace and your job role, if you’re confident enough, then don’t let anyone else dictate how you should look. If you think you should step up your wardrobe game, then go for it! Try new things, get that bold new haircut (don’t wait till you get paid, lose weight, have a holiday planned etc.), just be the best version of yourself every single day. Let your actions speak for what you are capable of. Even if there will always be people who judge from the surface, know that there is so much more to you than they’ll ever know.

    Since most of us spend almost 80% of our lives at work, don’t be afraid to brighten up your 9-5 (7-7 or 24/7, if you’re hustling super hard). Go out their and kick ass, whether in heels or Converse, let that be up to you, not anyone else.

    My Body is not a season!

    My Body is not a season!

    Booked those tickets, reserved that Airbnb, took out your annual leave but wait, just three more months to get that perfect #BaliBody!! Time to start panicking, hit the gym and go on a crazy diet cause who wants to go on holiday looking the same as every day? Afterall, before buying that perfect sexy swimsuit, you need the perfect body right?


    How many of us have this thought process before much awaited travel plans? Almost all of us! In Sri Lanka, most of us love to be in our best shape in December, ready for for all the beach days, parties and NYE. Staying this way through Christmas is a huge battle cause who can say no to all that food?


    If you live in a country that experiences the four main seasons, your body is put through so much just to fit in throughout the year.  There’s a reason why some of us love Winter so much. It’s that much easier to hide that extra weight underneath jumpers and jackets. Come Summer though, we sit and regret all the mashed potatoes and mac n cheese we consumed cause how do we get that Summer body now?!


    Why do we think our bodies need to change according to different seasons? Or when we need to go on vacation? Why is our daily-life, stay-at-home body just not good enough? Hop online and you see the ‘ideal women’ lounging in the sun, sipping a few cocktails, faces held up to bask in that golden glow; perfect outfit, perfect makeup, manicured fingernails in that perfect shade of Paradise. Know how to recognize this for what it is; an advertisement. You don’t need to be that woman to go on vacation, or to hit the beach with your friends, or to buy a new swimsuit. You just need to be you. The everyday you, because that’s the you that worked so hard to treat yourself to this holiday, that’s the you that cooked delicious meals and entertained everyone during cold Winter nights, that’s the you that deserves everything, simply for being strong, resilient and absolutely beautiful.


    Summer body, Bali body, Post-Avurudu body, STOP! Your body is not just for a season, it’s for life. Love it, embrace it, be proud of it.

    #Iamenough By: Krisheni Nanayakkara

    #Iamenough By: Krisheni Nanayakkara

    #IamEnough is a self love campaign by Flabulous in collaboration with Colourpop.lk ,Tz on insta accessories and the silk body to create a movement within women to voice out body positive messages. We are sharing our favorites on our blog!

     

    I love myself the way I am, with my virtues and my defects, my potential qualities and those that I’m still trying to improve. I love myself— so it’s implied that I love my whole body, just how it is and everything I can do with. I love myself— the things I perceive, hear, feel, taste and smell. I also love my mind, all of the thoughts and feelings that it generates. I love myself, and therefore I know that within me I have all of the resources and tools I need to survive. I just have to discover them beyond my barriers, and if I can’t find them, I’ll learn them.

    I love myself and my emotions— the joy, guilt, sadness, and fear. I love all of the emotions I experience, because I know that each one of them is showing me something in order to keep getting to know and work on myself and experience life. I love myself, and not just myself, but all of my dreams, illusions, hopes and challenges. I’m aware that they all form a part of who I am— my successes and also my failures. I love myself— I know there are still aspects I don’t know about myself, but I’m willing to discover and build upon them. I love myself, in the most sincere and realistic way there is, unconditionally... and that’s why I take care of, forgive and allow myself to grow as I go.